Over the years I've come to realize that if you really want to get a hot girl, you have to like her for things other than her looks. I won't go into why this is so as it's not the point of this question, but I know that it's true. If you want to be a guy who gets hot girls, you have to not care that much about her hotness. In other words, if you really want it you have to learn not to want it all that much. I don't know about you but I think this sucks for men. As I started to learn to like women for reasons other than their looks, I slowly realized that looks isn't worth all that much. A hot girl wouldn't have the effect on me as they did before, which means I also ended up not really liking girls that much period. I hated it. Sometimes I wonder if I had been better off living in my bubble even when I was unable to get the hot girls I really wanted. It depends though, is it better to have something you don't want, or want something you can't have?
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if you go by wanting something you don't want the relationship will go downhill as of lack of interest unless you get to know that person on an emotional level.
Going for something you can't have is always difficult because you'll have low self esteem and that relationship also can smither.
there are different ways to approach these and its to have self confidence and your right not to go by things by how people look but how you get to know them. I am the same but some guys im really attracted to don't know how to approach me while I am approachable either they just like to look so be it but at some point we'd have to get to know eachother on that level0