Is it understandable that I feel uncomfortable with my boyfriend not deleting previous nudes he has received before we started dating? I was scrolling through his photos and he warned me about there being nudes, but they're from people he previously had a "thing" with, before he met me, I asked him why he hadn't deleted them and his response was "I don't know, I don't delete them because I have them."
Most Helpful Guy
When started dating my last girlfriend, I had to remove all evidence of my previous ex from my phone, computer, camera, and facebook account. I had a lot of pictures because we were together for a long time, but not anymore. Now I was dating another girl and she takes priority because her pictures are the only things that I would need. Yes, it should make you feel very uncomfortable that he hasn't removed those pictures. A true gentleman works to make people feel comfortable as much as possible, this is more so true to the person they are in a relationship with. I've never had nude pictures of any of my girlfriends (mostly because I don't view the girls I date as armature porn stars for my personal amusement) but if I did, you know they would be deleted the moment we started dating. It's a respect thing and what he said to you, this shear act of laziness and uncaring relation is completely unacceptable. It is disgraceful that he treated you like that. If we were dating, I would have destroyed the phone in a fit of rage then made him apologize (thankfully I'm not a girl). Communication. Make sure you communicate with him how it makes you feel and that something needs to change. This is one of those my way or the highway things, especially if other girls are involved (picture form or not.)0
Most Helpful Girl
Totally understandable. If it was random porn directed at a more general audience it would just be meh, whatever. But these are nudes that girls actually sent specifically to him, for him. I wouldn't be ok with that, I would wonder why he felt the need to still have them. Especially if I pointed out to him that it's a bit silly to keep them. :/ I get that he might just be too lazy to go out of his way to select them all and delete them if he don't use them or care about them anymore, but you'd think that he'd delete them once they're brought to his attention. I dunno. Just doesn't seem right to me.0