- Yes - it doesn't change how I see them
- No - I could never be with a criminal
- Unsure - it depends on the charge
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I voted "unsure." I have dated someone before after finding out he was incarcerated, but to me it was never going to become very serious anyway (I was moving soon, and couldn't see us together long-term) so I didn't see it as a deal breaker at the time. It was a drug charge and he did receive a felony for it, but it happened over 10 years ago. I think had I been thinking more seriously about our relationship then it might have affected things more, but he turned out to be a really great person to get to know. He's worked his butt off to turn things around, and currently works as a counselor for incarcerated juveniles. We're still friends.
If the charges were something different regarding maybe sexual assault, domestic violence, etc. I'm sure it would've affected my feelings more. Also, thinking long term, I'd have to consider what a felony would do to us as a couple. He has a harder time getting a job, he can't own a weapon, and I'm not sure what the laws are regarding traveling out of the country.
Bottom line: If it's love, it's love. Ideally I'd rather not. But I never say never. Some really awesome people have grown out of some really big mistakes.