Its been a year and a half with my girlfriend. We're very much in love. I know some comments might say "shes useing u dude" but thats not the case. Im very street smart and see a good game coming. Anyway, after a year and a half i still foot the bill on everything. Last weekend we went out for a day date. Spent xx amount of dollars. She wanted to continue but i said i couldn't. Rather than say dont worry about it, drinks on me. The drive home was rather quiet. She has money. Not like she's broke. For the 1st six months its a mans duty to cover activities, in my opinion. But after this long its starting to drain me. We discuss moving forward. Marriage etc. But how can i blowing the cash i do. Whats your opinion.
Most Helpful Girl
She's got to understand you are not the bank. She needs to get really. It's so hard to date these days because of this reason... How many times are you welling to pay the bill to have fun? You have to budget your week... and you have to look at her and say, this is what I have to have fun... and stick to it. If she wants to have more fun, the bill is on her and I'd let her know... it called going dutch after you have hit ''the bucks stop here''...
She needs a reality check... you have spoiled her. But the honeymoon phase is over... Reality must start now. Could you actually lose this girl... maybe... Maybe she's selfish... but you need to know if she's a spender or a saver. You don't need to marry this girl if she's keeping you in debt hole... BIG RED FLAG
You both need to take about a fun budget... if she doesn't have money, she needs to work on herself so you both can meet in the middle... and maybe take you on a date.0
Most Helpful Guy
What the fuck? Jay tell her that you are gonna have to spit everything in half... That is bullshit.. she should also tell you yourself that you two should split the bills..
She Is just using you!!! Does she even love you?
I don't think you are street smart if you are letting this thing happen to you!
Speak up man! Be in control!!0