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no way!!! i prefer monogamous relationship!!!
Fuck no, that shit ain't real in my world lol
Three (or more) is a crowd.
Why?
Its just weird to me. I could never have even a threesome so having a relationship with more than one person is too much. there's such an amazing bond when you love one person to add another or more would make it less special in my opinion. As long as polyamory is between consenting adults i dont see anything wrong with it, but i couldnt do it or be in a relationship with someone who does.
The way I've always seen it is you could have a special bond with each person. Everyone offers something different physically and emotionally.
Also how would you feel if your SO said he wanted to date other women as well at the same time?
Yeah i can see your point of view but i still just couldnt do it. I really only have one best friend (other friends as well but one reaaly good one) that i share everything with so, im just kinda a singular person
I would have to break up with him
I don't have a best friend, instead I have several really good friends.
Wow that's extreme, makes it seem like it would be easier to cheat and keep both you and the other girl than be honest about it from the start.
Its better to be honest than to do it behind someones back. If she's not okay with it, you're not the guys for her and she isn't one of the girls for you.
Feels like you're damned if you do and damned if you don't but have a higher chance of keeping both if neither knows about the other. It really makes me sad that most women are monogamous and bringing this up could brake a perfectly good relationship.
If you tell them its just a dating and sexual preference, if you keep it secret you're a cheating asshole.
What if a guy loves both of them and wants them to accept it but they are strictly monogamous?
Like you said it's either you or the other girl but what if both of you are awesome in your own ways?
Thats why before you get into a serious relationship you need to be honest
Well that leaves people like me with a choice, from the start tell the girl that I want a polyamorous relationship and risk immediate rejection or wait and bring it up later.
Immediate rejection is better than hurting someone you care for
no, unless it was just making out.
Bro can you even land one woman?
Oh and just so you know, polygamy doesn't work. It never has. It's just a bunch of people fooling themselves that end up getting hurt and being miserable. I reckon you'll learn this the hard way as did I.
This is not polygamy
What is not polygamy?
My question is not about polygamy, it is about polyamoury.
I have mixed feelings towards polygamy.
Pretty much the same thing. Stop being a wise ass.
No thank you.
Why not?
Doesn't appeal in the slightest.
how would you feel if your SO said he wanted to date other women as well at the same time?
They wouldn't be my partner much longer.
Makes it seem like it would be easier to cheat and keep both you and the other girl than be honest about it from the start.
That's what polyamory is to me: cheating. I know men that prefer monogamy exist. Several have posted on this thread. I almost married one. Don't try to make it seem like I'm the one that's going to be disappointed and hurt here. I can find a monogamous relationship easily. You on the other hand...
Well the major difference between polyamoury and cheating is that in polyamoury all parties are aware of each other while cheating is a secret and can be seen as an act of betrayal.
I'm not saying you will be disappointed and hurt. I'm saying that there are men such as myself that would like to be with more than one women for a number of reasons I list them in myTake (check out the OP for the link) and that an ultimatum of "it's me or her" is unreasonable.
Let's say you liked 5 different types of chocolates and someone said that you could only have one wouldn't you be upset. This is an oversimplification but I hope you understand.
Again, no thank you. I have the right to be in a relationship that I want and am totally comfortable with. If my partner wants to create a relationship structure that I am not comfortable with, I don't have to go through with it and I won't.