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Lets get into serious stuffs.
As being 21 years old that never went on a date or took a girl's phone number.. it is kind of depressing at this point.
I have accepted the fact that I am insecure, and that I horribly lack of confidence. I can't do anything to overcome those issues, yet. Thus, as for the time being I'll more focus on myself in another way than the love life.
What can someone do to be happy? I just finished my summer classes, and I am on vacation for 2 months.
Need some plans for this summer.
If you believe that I should rather take this vacation to improve myself, as overcome my lack of confidence and insecurities then I'll do it. Kindly, tell me what should I do in thay case. Your guidance is really important.
Otherwise, I can spend my time on something else. Still, you'll have to come with ideas.
Either way I'll need some help to overcome my problems, and some plans for the rest of the summer.
Thank you! :)
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When you are insecure and lack confidence, this can put a big hing in your life. There are things you should be doing and don't, and things you shouldn't and do out of fear. For that is where it all comes from, these insecurities, is one of the most primal emotions we all have: Fear. You're afraid what others think (including girls), you get down on yourself thinking you aren't good enough or worth anything. I know these feelings because I use to feel this way when I was in Jr High. But I had to work really hard to get passed all that negativity that I was building up in my mind. And I had to go to some extremes to overcome and work towards happiness. We all want to be happy and it is a pursuit worth working towards. The summer is an amazing time to get outdoors, and even if you're alone you can have a lot of fun. Every summer I make a list of five or six things that I want to do and I make plans to do them. Camping, water park, stargazing (usually during meteor showers), travel out of state, these are just a few I like to try to do every summer. I just got back from a camping trip and I went on a few hikes by myself and took a lot of alone time to think about things and my life. Do things that you want to do that make you happy. If you want to play the computer, grab some snacks and plug in. If you want to go jet skiing, get on the internet and find a place that does that and do it. Mix it up with things you like to do with things you've always wanted to do. As your your confidence, I usually just remind myself that I'm happy to be me, rather than anyone else. Building a good self image, looking in the mirror and thinking how handsome you are, placing your fists on your hips like superman, thinkining positively, though sometimes you feel silly, can make a strong improvements. Every time I get dressed up nice I do the old Ron Burgundy into sequence, usually yelling to my roommates at how good looking I am. It makes you feel better to say it out loud, rather than to be consumed by the voices in your head who quietly say you're not good enough. You are good enough.
Just a quick tip for you and the girls, start talking to them. But don't start by asking them out. When you see a girl, just talk to her with no expectation and remember to not care what she thinks. Practice makes perfect and soon you'll be able to approach any girl with confidence and get the girl. Don't push yourself, just move at your pace and remember to tell yourself how awesome you are.