Why do almost all the guys I go on dates with end up being misogynist, gay, wanting sex only, lying, anti-feminist and total jerks?

Question

Argh!, wtf, why is modern dating so incredibly hard. Its like every nice guy i approach or get approached turns out to just be other than "LOVE"

Guys, i'm a polite girl with good morals and values and respect men and women all around me. I KNOW IT CAN"T BE EVERY GUY OUT THERE that behaves like this.

Why can't we just respect each other. Damn

Answer 1

LiveFreeorDieHard | 417 opinions shared on Dating topic.

Xper 7

Lol, dating is hard. I've been talking to this girl but she gives a lot of mixed signals. Like she asked me to feel this small dot on her shoulder which i did and we laughed a lot when eating. But then, when we sit down she sits away from me. Then she gives me a hug when ita time to go but then she made some food for everyone but told me there wasn't enough for me. Luke wtf, i feel like she is just screwing with my head. But yeah, meeting people at certain places help. You say you want a guy who is nice and respectable, try a church. Good luck.

Answer 2

cavmanier | 3.4K opinions shared on Dating topic.

Master

"Its like every nice guy i approach or get approached turns out to just be other than "LOVE""
What does that mean?

Apparently most or a lot of guy just want sex. Most guys seem to also to disagree with feminism. I don't know about misogynists, gays, guys lying or jerks.

Asker

+1 y
It means that everthing i date a guy its never about falling in love with ME for who i am. Its always about getting in my pants.
cavmanier

+1 y
I imagine it's much easier to find a guy interested in what's in your pants than wants to love and accept you. Finding a serious, life partner can be very hard. If you do find one, it's also very common to have serious problems in the relationship. It can be challenging. I have personally used my brain to figure out the kind of partner I want. A lot of guys are more interested in getting sex. Many have given up on relationships because they've found problems in past relationships. I find it sad.

Answer 3

Asker

It means that everthing i date a guy its never about falling in love with ME for who i am. Its always about getting in my pants.

Answer 4

cavmanier

I imagine it's much easier to find a guy interested in what's in your pants than wants to love and accept you. Finding a serious, life partner can be very hard. If you do find one, it's also very common to have serious problems in the relationship. It can be challenging. I have personally used my brain to figure out the kind of partner I want. A lot of guys are more interested in getting sex. Many have given up on relationships because they've found problems in past relationships. I find it sad.

Answer 5

9mfeo

Guru

I'm wondering what type of person you're attracted to. I wonder if you're mistaking charm for good character, for example. Perhaps you ought to re-evaluate what it is that you want (and don't want) out of a partner and go from there.

Answer 6

DodgersGM

Master

The misogynists/gays/total jerks didn't send off red flags?

Asker

+1 y
tbh, i never noticed initially, only much later into the relationship did i see the true colors
DodgersGM

+1 y
I would imagine that those are difficult things to hide, no?

I mean, I know some gay people try to deny their natures and date straight (I am actually a byproduct of such an attempt LOL), but you'd figure that the other ones would be easy to spot. I don't know.
DodgersGM

+1 y
Where are you meeting them? Do you have a pretty firm grasp on what you actually want from a man/relationship?
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Asker

+1 y
yeah i do know what i want in a relationship. But i figured that maybe i am just unlucky. so i will keep trying
DodgersGM

+1 y
Maybe you can improve on your weeding out technique a little. I mean, it's not like you're looking for anything unreasonable, ya know?

Do you jump into relationships quickly?

Answer 7

Asker

tbh, i never noticed initially, only much later into the relationship did i see the true colors

Answer 8

DodgersGM

I would imagine that those are difficult things to hide, no?

I mean, I know some gay people try to deny their natures and date straight (I am actually a byproduct of such an attempt LOL), but you'd figure that the other ones would be easy to spot. I don't know.

Answer 9

DodgersGM

Where are you meeting them? Do you have a pretty firm grasp on what you actually want from a man/relationship?

Answer 10

Asker

yeah i do know what i want in a relationship. But i figured that maybe i am just unlucky. so i will keep trying

Answer 11

DodgersGM

Maybe you can improve on your weeding out technique a little. I mean, it's not like you're looking for anything unreasonable, ya know?

Do you jump into relationships quickly?

Answer 12

5partan123

Xper 4

Honestly I don't know but I can tell you usgood guys are about :)

Asker

+1 y
Thanks, i have to double my efforts then... sigh
5partan123

+1 y
Maybe change up where you're meeting these guys. Are you meeting them in bars and clubs? I can tell you that 90% of the guys in those places are just after sex. You probably know that already, maybe start a new hobby or take a class or something. That way you'll meet guys who have shared interests and are hopefully less likely to be total dicks haha
Asker

+1 y
thanks i wil. yeah i have dated guys from bars and they indeed were jerks who just wanted sex. thanks

Answer 13

Asker

Thanks, i have to double my efforts then... sigh

Answer 14

5partan123

Maybe change up where you're meeting these guys. Are you meeting them in bars and clubs? I can tell you that 90% of the guys in those places are just after sex. You probably know that already, maybe start a new hobby or take a class or something. That way you'll meet guys who have shared interests and are hopefully less likely to be total dicks haha

Answer 15

Asker

thanks i wil. yeah i have dated guys from bars and they indeed were jerks who just wanted sex. thanks

Answer 16

Doffydood | 233 opinions shared on Dating topic.

Yoda

Maybe you're just unlucky? Keep trying and you will find an actual nice guy to be with :)

Asker

+1 y
Maybe unlucky, but i've tried dating a lot of guys already and no luck. But thanks, i will keep looking

Answer 17

Asker

Maybe unlucky, but i've tried dating a lot of guys already and no luck. But thanks, i will keep looking

Answer 18

Anonymous

odds are, you're simply a judgmental person and throwing them all under a bus because you didn't get your way.

and ask yourself, what would they really be getting in return for their investment in you?

Answer 19

Anonymous

Because the majority of people suck.

Answer 20

gobsmacked3 | 1.5K opinions shared on Dating topic.

Guru

Maybe you need to question your taste in men...

Asker

+1 y
i've tried to date a wide variety of men and in my experience, its been everything but love
gobsmacked3

+1 y
By your response you are conveying you are 'unlucky' or men are fundamentally flawed. i question that

Answer 21

Asker

i've tried to date a wide variety of men and in my experience, its been everything but love

Answer 22

gobsmacked3

By your response you are conveying you are 'unlucky' or men are fundamentally flawed. i question that

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