Why do almost all the guys I go on dates with end up being misogynist, gay, wanting sex only, lying, anti-feminist and total jerks?

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Argh!, wtf, why is modern dating so incredibly hard. Its like every nice guy i approach or get approached turns out to just be other than "LOVE"

Guys, i'm a polite girl with good morals and values and respect men and women all around me. I KNOW IT CAN"T BE EVERY GUY OUT THERE that behaves like this.

Why can't we just respect each other. Damn

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LiveFreeorDieHard | 417 opinions shared on Dating topic.

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Lol, dating is hard. I've been talking to this girl but she gives a lot of mixed signals. Like she asked me to feel this small dot on her shoulder which i did and we laughed a lot when eating. But then, when we sit down she sits away from me. Then she gives me a hug when ita time to go but then she made some food for everyone but told me there wasn't enough for me. Luke wtf, i feel like she is just screwing with my head. But yeah, meeting people at certain places help. You say you want a guy who is nice and respectable, try a church. Good luck.

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cavmanier | 3.4K opinions shared on Dating topic.

Master

"Its like every nice guy i approach or get approached turns out to just be other than "LOVE""
What does that mean?

Apparently most or a lot of guy just want sex. Most guys seem to also to disagree with feminism. I don't know about misogynists, gays, guys lying or jerks.

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Asker

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It means that everthing i date a guy its never about falling in love with ME for who i am. Its always about getting in my pants.
cavmanier

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I imagine it's much easier to find a guy interested in what's in your pants than wants to love and accept you. Finding a serious, life partner can be very hard. If you do find one, it's also very common to have serious problems in the relationship. It can be challenging. I have personally used my brain to figure out the kind of partner I want. A lot of guys are more interested in getting sex. Many have given up on relationships because they've found problems in past relationships. I find it sad.

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Asker

It means that everthing i date a guy its never about falling in love with ME for who i am. Its always about getting in my pants.

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cavmanier

I imagine it's much easier to find a guy interested in what's in your pants than wants to love and accept you. Finding a serious, life partner can be very hard. If you do find one, it's also very common to have serious problems in the relationship. It can be challenging. I have personally used my brain to figure out the kind of partner I want. A lot of guys are more interested in getting sex. Many have given up on relationships because they've found problems in past relationships. I find it sad.

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9mfeo

Guru

I'm wondering what type of person you're attracted to. I wonder if you're mistaking charm for good character, for example. Perhaps you ought to re-evaluate what it is that you want (and don't want) out of a partner and go from there.

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DodgersGM

Master

The misogynists/gays/total jerks didn't send off red flags?

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Asker

+1 y
tbh, i never noticed initially, only much later into the relationship did i see the true colors
DodgersGM

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I would imagine that those are difficult things to hide, no?

I mean, I know some gay people try to deny their natures and date straight (I am actually a byproduct of such an attempt LOL), but you'd figure that the other ones would be easy to spot. I don't know.
DodgersGM

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Where are you meeting them? Do you have a pretty firm grasp on what you actually want from a man/relationship?
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Asker

+1 y
yeah i do know what i want in a relationship. But i figured that maybe i am just unlucky. so i will keep trying
DodgersGM

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Maybe you can improve on your weeding out technique a little. I mean, it's not like you're looking for anything unreasonable, ya know?

Do you jump into relationships quickly?

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Asker

tbh, i never noticed initially, only much later into the relationship did i see the true colors

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DodgersGM

I would imagine that those are difficult things to hide, no?

I mean, I know some gay people try to deny their natures and date straight (I am actually a byproduct of such an attempt LOL), but you'd figure that the other ones would be easy to spot. I don't know.

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DodgersGM

Where are you meeting them? Do you have a pretty firm grasp on what you actually want from a man/relationship?

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Asker

yeah i do know what i want in a relationship. But i figured that maybe i am just unlucky. so i will keep trying

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DodgersGM

Maybe you can improve on your weeding out technique a little. I mean, it's not like you're looking for anything unreasonable, ya know?

Do you jump into relationships quickly?

Answer 12

5partan123

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Honestly I don't know but I can tell you usgood guys are about :)

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Asker

+1 y
Thanks, i have to double my efforts then... sigh
5partan123

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Maybe change up where you're meeting these guys. Are you meeting them in bars and clubs? I can tell you that 90% of the guys in those places are just after sex. You probably know that already, maybe start a new hobby or take a class or something. That way you'll meet guys who have shared interests and are hopefully less likely to be total dicks haha
Asker

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thanks i wil. yeah i have dated guys from bars and they indeed were jerks who just wanted sex. thanks

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Asker

Thanks, i have to double my efforts then... sigh

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5partan123

Maybe change up where you're meeting these guys. Are you meeting them in bars and clubs? I can tell you that 90% of the guys in those places are just after sex. You probably know that already, maybe start a new hobby or take a class or something. That way you'll meet guys who have shared interests and are hopefully less likely to be total dicks haha

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Asker

thanks i wil. yeah i have dated guys from bars and they indeed were jerks who just wanted sex. thanks

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Doffydood | 233 opinions shared on Dating topic.

Yoda

Maybe you're just unlucky? Keep trying and you will find an actual nice guy to be with :)

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Maybe unlucky, but i've tried dating a lot of guys already and no luck. But thanks, i will keep looking

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Asker

Maybe unlucky, but i've tried dating a lot of guys already and no luck. But thanks, i will keep looking

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Anonymous

odds are, you're simply a judgmental person and throwing them all under a bus because you didn't get your way.

and ask yourself, what would they really be getting in return for their investment in you?

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Anonymous

Because the majority of people suck.

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gobsmacked3 | 1.5K opinions shared on Dating topic.

Guru

Maybe you need to question your taste in men...

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Asker

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i've tried to date a wide variety of men and in my experience, its been everything but love
gobsmacked3

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By your response you are conveying you are 'unlucky' or men are fundamentally flawed. i question that

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Asker

i've tried to date a wide variety of men and in my experience, its been everything but love

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gobsmacked3

By your response you are conveying you are 'unlucky' or men are fundamentally flawed. i question that

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