I really don't see why anyone would be in touch with an ex unless they're just friends. The current guy that I'm dating is in touch with an ex who HE once dumped, behind my back. He doesn't know that I'm aware but I am. They were in touch before we met yet he stars seeing me, they were flirting. Heck she even called him once when we went out on a party. My guess is that he has feelings for her but I don't see why he would start seeing someone else which is me in this case and let her be aware of that, I don't know what he truly feels about her either since it never was a real relationship. I can't tell him not to because he is not committed to me but it does put me off. Yes I could dump him but I'm looking for opinions?
Most Helpful Guy
I'm reasonable, like super mr. reasonable haha. but I do have a slight selfish side that isn't a fan of allowing in my case "a girl" to openly communicate with her ex.
It comes down to what you're willing to put up with in this relationship. You risk major emotional stress constantly worrying when he's on the phone or out of sight, if he's with his ex or communicating with her. Even with trust, it's good to not be Naive, because let's face it. Putting yourself in the situation where you're around an old love or someone you can get physical or see yourself in a relationship with, and I'm talking about him around his ex... could lead to anything.0
Most Helpful Girl
I kept in contact with my X because a part of me still cared for that person.
When you care (whether you're together or not) its hard to let go completely.
When I didn't care at all... it was easier to get him out of my life completely.
Caring about someone doesn't always involve love.
There was a point where I still loved him.
When I got over that love... I still cared for him as a friend.
Eventually, his true colors came to light and I saw him for what he really was.
At that point I was ready to cut him loose permanently.
There was no looking back after that.
I think your boyfriend may still care for his ex.
The fact that they are flirting doesn't make things any better.
I don't think you should dump your boyfriend.
I think since you BOTH are together you should talk to him about this.
What kind of a relationship would it be if you hide your feelings? And don't communicate?
In order for him to change past behavior, he has to first become aware of what you see that is wrong.0