i care for her, i dont want to hurt her and would destroy anyone who hurts her. but i just can't be with her i have no interest in what she has to say, how her day went, what she is doing, nothing. i dont even wanna have sex with her, she's not my type physically at all. at all. i dont know how i got in so deep. what do i do?
Most Helpful Girl
Cut her off now before it gets worse. It's better to hurt her now than worse later. Be nice about it, say it isn't what you're looking for. Be honest and tell her that you can't see this developing in to a relationship, but don't blame it on her looks to her. If she asks just say you don't feel you mesh well. If she wants to remain friends with benefits tell her that you're more interested in a friendship with her, that you care about her, but you aren't sexually or romantically attracted to her and you don't want to keep her from what she deserves.
Be clear. Let her know that there is no chance of a relationship with you, and don't string her along thinking it will hurt less. If you're direct she will know where she stands with you, and it will hurt her, but she won't be confused and she'll probably appreciate the honesty.
Most Helpful Guy
This is the usual result of friends with benefits. "Please allow me to use you and have no regard for your feelings because I would like to have an ejaculation inside your vagina. When you fall in love with me, I'll remind you that we said friends with benefits so I won't need to feel guilty and I can blame you." You say that you care but, if you really cared, you would not have put her in this position.