My boyfriend and I started dating 9 months ago in NYC. We are moving to LA in September where there are thousands of beautiful, talented, down to earth girls searching for a good man. I know because I lived there for years and had tons of these girls as friends. My boyfriend and I met in winter, which is, in my opinion, the time of year when people are looking to hunker down. They may take whatever is in front of them! The problem with moving to Beautiful Babe Land (California) is that he looks exactly like Brad Pitt, and he's a musician and good boy from the Midwest. Women throw themselves at him and suddenly I feel like I'm better off on my own. I enjoy being single and I'm damn good at it! Because while I do have a Victorias Secret body (which he LOVES) suddenly my horribly crooked teeth, lazy eye, and lack of any musical talent/knowledge won't be enough to keep him. I am not insecure, but he's social, kind, insanely attractive, and motivated. I'm worried that we're going to get to LA and I'll appear less attractive than the other women. I trust him, but I know women... and they'll stop at nothing, playing all the right cards to seduce/land the man they want... even if he's taken. Should I do what my gut tells me and work on my own projects while he heads to Pleasure Island? The stress is killing me.
Most Helpful Guy
Well, you are perceptive and realistic. The only questions are: how valuable are you to him in other ways besides your looks/body? And how moral and loyal is he?
You're right that LA is full of hot women, and a lot of them quickly learn to use their sexuality to get what they want (often successfully, at least to a certain extent). No doubt hot women will come on to him - even throw themselves at him.
But if you are making him happy, not just sexually but emotionally and spiritually, then if he has decent morals, he isn't going to stray. If you DON'T make him feel that you are supportive, or are overly needy/clingy, etc., or if he doesn't have high moral character, then you're in trouble.
A woman doesn't have to be "perfect", especially not physically, in order for a man to be attracted to her and love her. If you're an 8.5, then a 9 or 9.5 isn't going to sway him if your personality and attitude are also great.
But we don't know him, or you, so you'll have to be as objective as you can and do your own evaluation. You may want to, you know, actually TALK about this with him too...2
Most Helpful Girl
Brad isn't even that hot2