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A little perspective:
In the summer of 2004, at the age of 37, I found myself divorced, working full time (evenings & weekends included) attending college and moved back in with my parents. That last bit was necessary because I had custody of my 4 year old son.
So, let's look at this from a dating perspective:
- my coworkers -- all male
- can't go out because I work evenings and weekends
- average age of college coed was 20 -- I was old enough to be their father
- college women my age -- all married
- I live with my mom and dad, and my 4 year old son
Awesome wealth of opportunity for dating and relationships -- NOT!
The week my divorce became final, I purchased a 1 year membership with eHarmony. I communicated with my matches every day. I was disciplined about it -- treating it like a second job. Seven months into that membership, I met a very special woman. Everything clicked. After about 4 months together as a couple we knew we would one day marry. Seventeen months after we first met we were married. That was 9 years ago this June.
Here's the thing about online dating (especially through eHarmony - my only experience). When you join and develop your profile, they only match you with people you would be compatible with.
My matches all:
- were willing to accept my son as their own child
- had similar religious beliefs
- had similiar political beliefs
- had the same outlook on sex
- had the same views on raising children
- had similiar interests
- had similiar views on homelife and work life balance.
ALL this was established before going on a first date. Yes, there were first dates too, plenty of them. You see, online dating is a misnomer. These are really online matching and introduction services. After the service makes the introduction, the rest is up to you, just like in the real world, because it is in the real world.
If it happens that a guy is surrounded by eligible single women in his life, well, God bless. If he is like me, then work is a sausage fest and going to college is like walking into a middle school. If you want a date with a woman in the real world, you have to go where they are -- online.