I don't mean to sounds mean at all. I just want to know if anyone else experiences this. It seems like the only guys that seem to show interest in me are guys I don't want and just not interested in, yet the guys I show interest in never want me or they treat me like. Does anyone else go through this and how do you deal with it? Is it worth going out with someone you're not interested in?
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Half of this happens. I've never experienced the ones I don't want never leaving me alone, because to my knowledge no one has ever been interested in me. I don't know why - I'm not obese or ugly at all, I'm not a criminal, I'm not a drug addict or alcoholic, I don't even smoke. I am healthy, I'm educated, and I'd say I look at least decent. I have a few areas of life I need to improve on, but damn, I'm not that bad that I deserve to repulse every girl I like. I actually think I'm at least somewhat of a good person and a good catch.
But I'm never good enough for the ones I want, even though we can get along. Still, when they started going out with some cocky douche, as they all have, it gets hard for me to stay around and watch that. It hurts. It really hurts because again, these were girls I could talk to really well, who I was genuinely interested in talking to and they seemed interested in getting to know me too because they'd open up to me and tell me things and talk to me in complete thoughts, not just "yeps" and "nopes". We had interests and ideals in common. It wasn't that I was going for people who have nothing in common with me and we could barely hold a conversation.
I only hope these girls break up, and that I can get a second chance. But it doesn't look good and I'm really worried that the only choice I'm going to get is between settling for someone that I'm not crazy about, or just being single for my whole life. I'm tired of being single, but I just don't see any appeal in faking my way through a relationship with someone that I wouldn't date if I could have gotten those other girls. I won't really want to have sex with them and I won't really be interested in getting to know them and won't really want to make memories with them. My whole love life will be one forgettable blur. It would feel like I'm wasting my life. I'll always wish I could have been with the ones I wanted and I'll always curse myself for not having grown up confident, which I'm sure is the cause of this. It's like... I'll never arrive, never be complete, never be truly happy. And, I just don't want to play that role in life. I don't want to be a person who has to settle for less, I want to be the kind of person who gets what they want.
But I just don't know how I can stop this from happening time and time again. I have guesses but nothing concrete. It's really annoying.0