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They think they're just trying to help, and they fail to really give two flying sh*ts about how what they're doing is coming off and how it's emotionally affecting you.
On the other hand, it's also your fault for not STOPPING, sitting down with the women in your family who do this, and talking to them openly and clearly about "how what they're doing" is "making you feel." When you do that, NOW, it's 100% out in the open about "how you will feel" if "they do X." So, by continuing "to do X," what they're really communicating now is, "I don't care how I make you feel."
Generally, people (especially women) tend to avoid conflict and seek to maintain the peace. So, if you position yourself that way on the emotional chess board, it's very difficult for the women in your life to continue doing "X" without you being able to nicely, calmly, and in the most diplomatic and most socially defensible and sympathetic way possible say, "Do you remember that conversation we had, where I told you how this makes me feel? Do you love me? Do you care about me? Do you want to make me feel that way? Okay, then, for the Nth time, can you please stop MAKING ME FEEL THAT WAY?"
Do not talk to women about DOING X, speak in terms of them ceasing to MAKE YOU FEEL some negative way, and explain clearly how and "why" what they are doing makes you feel.
If that doesn't work, time to bring out the NUCLEAR OPTION.
I once went out on a date with someone my mother set me up with. It was a very inexpensive date too, something like $30 for coffee and some appetizers. The girl actually offered to pay $5.00 for her coffee (as a courtesy). So, what did I do? I accepted. In this culture, it was understood that the guy pays 100% for the first date, and to actually accept a woman's offer to pay is an indication that the guy is "cheap," which is a huge negative in that community. Yet, that's exactly what I did. Why? Because I knew she would run back to her parents and tell them what happened, and now my parents would be embarrassed. So, if they weren't going to care about how "I" felt, maybe they would care about the way they felt, and their reputation, and their ability to maintain their own social circles.
They forced me to have to take it to that level. Explain to them that you don't want to be the child that starts "acting out" until they get the point to FUCK OFF.