Women have constantly fought for equality in the workforce and now earn the same as men do WHEN STARTING OUT. The pay gap doesn't begin until they take off for children. If I split the bill so many women wouldn't even think to give me a second date. Why are men expected to pay for the first date? And how many many dates do we have to pay for?
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Men pay for the first date to establish neutrality. I pay for everything on a first date. If I realize there is not, and won't be, any chemistry, I can walk away feeling like I provided a social opportunity that just didn't play out. First dates are not a competition. When I ask a woman to join me for dinner, that's what "I" am asking: "Join" me for dinner. I am having dinner, I am paying for that dinner, I would like your company during that dinner. Going "halves" on anything usually involves implied obligation, which is a really bad way to start any relationship. And that's another thing: Since when did a first date signify the beginning of a relationship? Two people getting together to decide if they want if they want to spend more time together shouldn't obligate the person invited to pay for their part of the social event. Pay for the first date. It shows a woman you are interested in her, without expecting her to pay for the privilege of being in your presence. A woman who agrees to have dinner with you has already provided her side of the social obligation. Asking her to pay half is kind of an insult. Man up. Pay for the first date. Good time. Second date. Bad time. You've paid her to be a grown up and walk away.1