I love lifting weights and working on my fitness. I love being strong and reaping all the benefits that fitness gives, like well-being, health, and strong self-confidence. I date a lot of girls, but what I've noticed is that girls are attracted to all the benefits of my fitness (confidence, body, pride), but they usually want me to start spending less time in the gym when we get serious. Why would I want to do that? They knew who I was when we got together. It's almost like they want me to gain fat and get soft so that I won't be as attractive to other girls.
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Most of the time it is because they would like you to be spending more time with them. If you make as much time for them as you do for the gym, they probably would not feel that way. You may have to adjust your schedule a bit. Perhaps wake up early and go to the gym or ask her to join you at the gym. Find someone who is as passionate about it as you are and she will likely not want you to give up your gym time. She will want to share that time with you, if possible.
There are those exceptions. If you are with a woman who is not very confident in herself, she may feel threatened by other women because of the attention you will attract due to your body. If she is open with you and expresses this to you, just assure her that you are with her (and not any of the other women) for a reason and that she needs to trust you. If she continues having problems with you going to the gym, perhaps she is not the one for you.2
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