i went on a date with a guy- suddenly he told me that he remembers meeting me years ago. He told me a few places we went and i barely remembered him. He seemed to remember me a lot and tell me he liked me, but at the time I was dealing with a crazy ex. He told me several times he liked me back then. I told him im older now and diff and I was dealing with a jerk back then but I was looking for someone to date too. At first, he seemed positive and nice.. but then suddenly, he started getting negative and weird. He began telling me he knew i wasn't happy and to tell him why. I told him that he couldn't judge other people's happiness and that he's really wrong.. and huh? he kept harping on it.. he also kept calling me negative for any little thing i said or did. The first hour he was nice and fun... then he just changed. A total jerk- he was literally mind screwing me and I was like.. ok you're being a jerk and huh... he kept saying No no you're not happy.. you're this you're that.. he wouldn't stop. He was really bringing me down and it was getting annoying. Then, there was just tension and quiet-
after that, he didn't talk much and got more condescending. Like, i tried to ask him a question, and he kept asking me to repeat myself, and was looking at me in derogatory way then insulted my question. I just said "what kind of girls did you meet online?" He was acting rude and saying.. what? what? i dont get it. He began being super negative and was just quiet and didn't talk. Prior to that, he was friendly and funny...
Then, we left... and even outside, he was dead silent and quiet- acting rude/weird. I was the one that despite feeling down kept initiating conversation- he then kept telling me i was negative, and was being hypocritical and weird. just putting me down acting crazy, rude. I said I have to go and left. He then texted me saying he's sorry he didn't mean to be a jerk and wasn't trying to be one- he was def trying to dominate me.. why would he do this
Most Helpful Guy
Sounds like the previous encounter and its recollection triggered some bad memories for him.2
Most Helpful Girl
Cease all contact and avoid him. I don't know why someone would act like that, but he seems to have some serious problems.
Men who want to control and manipulate usually tell a woman what she wants to hear, then slowly destroys her confidence once he gains her trust. He was acting like a psychopath on a first date... something is seriously wrong. Was he high or drunk? That's the first logical explanation for erratic behavior. I don't know what to tell you except I felt your discomfort in your writing and definitely stay away from him.1