I'm a confident and good-looking guy, but the last thing I am or want to be is a player. I date girls, but only one at a time and only after I've vetted them for compatibility. I could have fucked dozens of girls in college, but I'm starting grad school and I've only had 4 sex partners. So why do girls automatically assume that attractive guys are all players? Guys don't assume that all hot girls are sluts. Do girls think that a guy who can have dozens of girls actually *will* have them? It seems that every time I meet a girl I have to spend the first few months dispelling her preconceived notions that I'm out to use her for sex.
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I'm not sure how much of a "player" we think you are more than we think it may be unrealistic for us to have a shot with you OR that many girls are attracted to you and we don't feel like trying to vie for your attention. Guys who exude confidence paired with attractiveness almost automatically attract women. We could assume that you are or have been with a lot of girls, just because we see your attractiveness (behavior and physically). Many guys in your position may take advantage of that position.
I apologize to you from ladies who have misconstrued you and your actual feelings. That isn't right. I think I am guilty of these assumptions sometimes. It's awesome that you are calling the status quo of these assumptions into question.
However, I think that one thing to remember is that as ladies, we are just trying to protect our hearts and ourselves from hurt, which we may have seen at the hands of attractive and confident men in the past. So, just show me your character and show me the honorable man that you are :)0