I have two friends who've been dating for a while and one of them recently cheated on the other (met up with another person knowing something was going to happen and they kissed) and told me because they knew that I wouldn't be able to get angry at them or have the guts to tell the other partner. I have been told by friends that this is why they told me and it makes me feel betrayed. But I've been trying to figure out the right thing to do because the person who cheated has told me they won't do it again but they're still talking to the person they cheated with which I think is a big no no. And if I had been cheated on and one of my friends knew, I would want to know about it straight away but I feel like the worst person even though I didn't do the dirty work. I know the partner that cheated won't speak up at all because they dont think what they did was that bad. And the partner that was cheated on will continue to do everything to please the other just to keep their relationship afloat because they don't know whats going on. I know its not my place to say anything but i've already tried to point the partner that was cheated on in the right direction to find out but they're so clueless because they'd never assume this would happen to them.
- Tell the partner they've been cheated onVote A
- Keep it to myselfVote B
Most Helpful Guy
Think about it this way:
Cheaters are liars. Cheaters don't care about the feelings of their supposed loved ones, at least not enough to NOT cheat. Cheaters are pieces of shit.
Do you really want to stay friends with someone like that?13
Most Helpful Girl
I value loyalty and i would be furious if a friend put me in this situation. I would tell him that my conscience wouldn't allow me to cover up such deceit. If i didn't tell her i'd feel i had betrayed her , because i was keeping her boyfriends betrayal a secret.
I would tell him that if he doesn't tell her then i would. My loyalties would lie with her not him, because he is in the wrong, he is the one being disloyal , and i wouldn't be a third party to his betrayal.
I would never cheat on a guy , so i would never cover up for a cheater and keep their dirty little secret.
I would definitely tell my friend , because a friend deserves trust and loyalty. If i didn't tell her , not only would she be betrayed by her boyfriend.. she'd be betrayed by me too.1