And also, I'm not "crazy" about him like I think I should be. It's just lacking a certain element of excitement for me, being around him. I don't get butterflies when I see him, or any of that stuff that you usually get when you're around someone you really like. At the same time, a guy I used to date casually has been contacting me recently wanting to see me, saying he really wants to make me his girlfriend -- he is really attractive and we connected well, but I couldn't imagine a relationship with him.
Lastly, another guy has been on my mind this entire time, a guy I've dated on and off since last year, and I have strong feelings toward him, but I don't think it's reciprocated. I'm just so torn between having a lack of feelings for someone, too many feelings for someone who likely doesn't share them, and someone who has too many feelings for me that I don't share. What should I do in this situation? I just feel so lost and confused. Maybe I should drop them all and refocus myself on my goals.
- No, that's wrong. You should only devote your attention to one person at a time.
- Yes, it's normal and healthy to explore other options if you aren't committed yet.
- Sure, as long as you let them know you are dating other people.
- Probably not, but as long as you don't tell them, it's fine.
Most Helpful Guy
this is the key statement "Maybe I should drop them all and refocus myself on my goals" that is what you should do. NO DOUBT.
Most Helpful Girl
I don't really understand. How can you have the time to date 3 different guys, but not the time to spend on only one guy (= your boyfriend)?
If you don't want a relationship or don't have the time for one, why date in the first place? The point of dating is finding someone to be with. Otherwise it's just called "fucking around" or having friends with benefits.
None of these guys seem to be good. You don't have feelings for 2 of them and the one you do have feelings for doesn't feel the same way. Drop all of them and focus on yourself, especially considering that you said that you don't even have time for a boyfriend.
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