He is very sweet and he texted me the same night that we slept together. The he texted me a day after and he is very nice. He wants to see me again but he invited me to his apartment because he wants to cook for me. Of course he wants to have sex again because why I wouldn't do it again if I already did?
I don't want to do it but I do like him. If I go to his apartment and don't have sex with him I would look like a tease or it would be stupid?
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I suppose being honest with him and telling him something like, "I'm on a mission to reclaim my virginity," will help make things better (sarcasm emphasized).
I'll cut to the chase.
"I don't want to do it"
Right? I mean, that's the million dollar question. "Why?"
And not, "Why did you want to do it then, but not now?" Nope, nobody cares about that. Instead, the real question is simple, "Why don't you want to have sex with him?"
The only relevance of having sex with him on a recent and prior occasion is that it eliminates some of the reasons why you wouldn't want to have sex with him (e. g., because you don't find him physically attractive, because you don't feel comfortable around him, because you find his personality repulsive, etc.).
So, what is it?
Could it be... "is not like I was expecting a relationship" (when you first had sex with him), but now, after you saw and felt that "He is very sweet and he texted me the same night that we slept together... he texted me a day after and he is very nice... he invited me to his apartment because he wants to cook for me" ... and that now all of a sudden... "I do like him" ...
... that you're having some "thoughts" dominate the discussion in your head?
1. Is he just interested in me for sex?
2. Will he still be interested in me if we don't have sex?
3. I don't want him to think negatively of me, because of the early sex.
4. If I stop having sex with him, will it make up for the fact that we had sex "too soon"?
All of these anxieties and fear statements, all because now you "like him." Now, you see the potential of a relationship with him, and you're looking to feel that 3-month probationary period "he's not just interested in me for sex" verification... the only problem being that you slept with him on the second date.
I'm not sure "tease" is the right word, or anywhere close.
I think you'll just come off as confused, because, well, it sounds like you are. It's going to be like, "Ugh, what kind of game is she playing?" One second you're not like the typical "Oh, no, I can't, I shouldn't, I'm so confused and emotionally perplexed" kind of girl, then overnight the true colors start showing and it's, "Oh, no, I can't, I shouldn't, I'm so confused and emotionally perplexed."
Not that there's anything "wrong" with that, but its sort of difficult to feel (as a guy) that you have a good idea at that point of who this person is emotionally.