Would dating a single mother be right for a guy like myself?
What Girls Said 4
I'll never understand why a young guy would want to play step daddy when he already has his own shit going on. Not too sound insensitive she may be a sweet girl that you like spending time with and that's cool but just because you date her doesn't mean you have to play step daddy to her kid Why burden yourself like that
If you think she's worth it, then date her. Though more than likely the relationship won't work out. You're young and have a lot to figure out. Relationships that involve another person's kids tend to be complicated and tiresome.
Fuck that noise.
I think that you can do what you want, but you have to think about the level of commitment that you will be putting in.
In your question you said that you would be taking "mommy" away... it's not that simple... you would be adding yourself to a family... your not taking "mommy" away your adding yourself in as "daddy" essentially...
At 20 Years old you should have a woman by your side, and you should be able to go out to the movies, park, or county fair... but you have to realize that there are other factors at play you'll both be working tons of hours, in school, assisting family financially, and caring for a kid... there's no way you'll be able to live a normal life. If she wasn't a single mom (just a scenario..) you'd have a bit more time to spend with her; I know this because I was doing the same thing... I worked 40 hours through out college and helping my family financially... My boyfriend was doing the same.. when the time came for free time with friends or for us alone... it was impossible to pick up where we left off or describe what happened the day before...
I say do what you think is right, but your young see the world before you commit.
What Guys Said 4
You're a young guy, with a bright future ahead of him. There is no need why you should mess that up by getting with a single mother; and worry financially about a kid is not even yours. There is thousand of beautiful girls that are your age and hispanic, Asian, white, black etc. that don't have kids.
You have your pick of any woman you want, and want one with another guy's cuntspawn?
Honestly, I'd worry about building my own life and career instead of trying to play daddy to a kid you don't actually want (you said yourself you aren't ready for this) just to get at his mother.
Think about the guy that banged her and left her. She couldn't get the most important decision of her life right, choosing the guy to impregnate her. I strongly do not recommend you date a woman with a baby. She can date whoever that baby's father is.
Never, ever date a woman with kids. You will always be "Segundo plata un la mesa", which is Spanish for the second plate on the table. Her kid will get in
the way at some point and I promise you her ex will do everything he can to cock block you. Be friends with her, but nothing more.
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