i get paid good for part time work and i'am just busy. Kinda makes me sad she feels this way cause if the roles were switched i would understand. Tomorrow night i will talk to her but in my opinion do you think it's ok for a couple to not see each other for 2 weeks?
Her friend also messaged me and said i have to put her first and that if i don't i'm not being fair to her, is that true too?
Most Helpful Girl
I can understand being busy and an adult in a relationship should understand when someone else is busy too. One thing that could help is to send her little texts that are flirty or whatever when you have a spare minute. Something as small as, "Wish I didn't have to work tonight because I'd love to see you right now" or "Can't wait to see you again, wish I wasn't so busy" or even "Just wanted to say you're beautiful." Little messages that show her you're thinking of her go a really long way. If you stop communicating in a more than friends way between visits, she might start to feel like a booty call or unimportant. If you give her what you can and she still can't appreciate the effort and that you have responsibilities beyond being her man, you may have to move on. I think most people like to be complimented, even if their partners do all sorts of things to show their love and affection. Actually hearing the words is nice too.
Most Helpful Guy
Make it clear that you're busy promise her a change don't tell her that you're busy with work because she'll think that work is more important than her and you should definitely spend more time with her I don't think a person that's busy doesn't have at least little to enough time to spend with the girl he likes. Realize that she told you this because she cares about you and probably misses you a lot.