Is it such a big deal to date a guy with kids?
Im 32 with two kids 9 & 6.
How important, if at all, is it that he is childless for you to be interested.
Im about to start dating again and wondering if I should limit my interests to single mums only?
i get plenty of female attention but I'm wondering if me having kids will scare girls away?
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It might, depending on their age and what they want in life. If someone's younger and going to university full-time, like me, then it might not be what they want. It's just that if you get serious with a guy with kids, the kids get to become a huge part of your life too, and I'm not mature or capable enough and I don't have enough free time to help look after two young children. If something happens to your relationship, then it hurts the children too. It's a big responsibility for getting serious when there are children involved.
Plus, the parent can't put their new boyfriend/girlfriend first because the kids have to go first. It's not like starting a new relationship with each other where you're the centre of each other's attention for a while, that attention will always have to be divided, and the new partner can never be a priority.
There are also just some women who don't want children so obviously they're definitely going to be put off by you already having them :P
I don't think I'd date someone with two kids right now. It's just a lot of responsibility that I know I wouldn't be able to handle. In a few years when I'm more stable, then maybe, but not right now.