Im destroyed. Whyd she do that to me? I hate myself for it. I feel like im not good enough for anyone anymore. I love all i can to just get hurt.. Why?
Most Helpful Girl
Ask her if you want but that's not going to make you feel any better. She more than likely had no real pre-meditated reason for it. More often than not, the cheater simply has a momentary lapse of judgement at the wrong time, resulting in them cheating.
She might say something like how she felt neglected by you, you weren't giving her 'enough attention' for the past little white, etc.. Whichever it is, that's rarely the truth. It's simply an easy way for the cheater to shift the blame away from themselves because they know they fucked up.1
Most Helpful Guy
Do you think it will help you get over it and recover? Will it help you bring closure to the relationship or will you only be opening an old wound? No one besides you can answer this because your the one who knows yourself the best, whatever you think brings the most amount of closure and relief possible is the best way. Either that be trying to find out why or entirely blocking her from your life, or anything in between, its up to you. Don't blame yourself though, its not you, a cheater is a self entitled brat who need everything for themselves, if they can't get enough out of you they look for the next thrill.2