Hey guys! So I'm a little confused.. I'm in uni (first year) and it seems like dudes are just not interested in having anything more with me and I'm wondering why. It's not attraction, because I'm gorge not to be conceited and guys check me out, approach me, and talk about me to their friends. Also my personality is really friendly, super chill and it's pretty easy to make me laugh, I just don't sweat the small stuff. Having said that, it seems like guys don't wanna get close to me at all, not even to be good friends. All I get is lame hookup invites which I don't do. And there was this one guy who I was friends with and I would just be friendly about, like I would call him a couple times, text a little bit, and I hugged him the few times I ran into him. That's just the way I usually act (which my guy friends NEVER complain about haha). I was never into this guy, or even attracted to him and tbh, im really out of his league, it's actually his hot friend that I liked and he likes me, but he has a girlfriend and so I completely stopped trying to be anything more. But this one dude just went crazy and started talking shit about me about how I want him. But anyways, should I just accept that guys at this age/phase don't want anything remotely serious? And I also don't want anything serious, but just something light and fun but still a bf/gf relationship, hookups don't cut it for me. And sometimes I think it's the way I dress that puts off guys and make them think I'm high maintenance and want a ring. I dress really stylish and always have my hair done nice (which really attracts guys) and my makeup and stuff. And of course a good figure too. And the reason I want to know if you guys also think a girl who is always "dressed up" is a turn off or I give off a 'serious-relationship' vibe is because I've always heard that guys love when girls dress casual, sweatpants barely or no makeup etc etc. But I can't tone down the way I dress unfortunately bc it'll stress me out if I can't be myself as I love fashion. And I feel like one day when I get involved with a guy who's serious, he'll really appreciate that I always look amazing and respect that about me. Sorry, long post, haha but guys your response is needed :)
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Way too long to read.
Guy in college don't tend to want more than a hookup or a friends with benefit. Why? There are so many girls, that sticking with one can get boring. Also, a relationship takes time. Also, many girls aren't into relationships in college, therefore you change your mentality into "just hookups" so that you have more girls to choose from. Also, you're young, it's too early to get attached.
I personally don't want a relationship, I have no reason to do so. Why would I? So many girls, so much fun to have. There's enough time to have a relationship.4