Most Helpful Girl
I do get that waiting and going through things... just to realize you two aren't sexual compatible would suck. I do get it. But everyone moves at their own pace. I can't sleep with a guy I'm not comfortable with, or know that he won't "hit it & quit it". So for me it would take time (but I have only slept with one guy that was my serious boyfriend).
If you've already made your intentions known, that you want sex and she still says no. You can either wait it out, or find another woman.
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Most Helpful Guy
What is your emotional bond with her like? Does she feel to you like she's practically already a wife? What part of your daily routine would you gladly sacrifice for her? Would she do the same for you? If you found out a month after sleeping with her that she got pregnant, would you be racing to the store to come up with wedding plans with her, or would you get upset and run away like your hair was on fire? Do you consider her the kind of woman worthy of bearing your children?
If any of these questions have caused you some level of doubt and concern, you should seriously rethink why you want to go to bed with her. Sex is about stability, intimacy, bonding, and procreation, not a mindless spectator sport.
If you're incapable of having fun in a way that doesn't involve fornicating, then you need counseling.