Would you date someone who has a child?
A friend of mine, who is the age of eighteen, just got himself a new girlfriend. Of course, she has a child. Anyway, this situation has gotten me thinking; Who else would do this? Not only that, but do you think he (my friend) is too young to take on the responsibilities of a child?
- I would!
- I wouldn't!
Most Helpful Guy
When I remarried, I had custody of my then 5 year old son. My new wife had custody of two daughters from a previous marriage. We met via eHarmony. One of the elements of the guided communication that takes place between eHarmony matches is the exchange of "must haves" and "can't stands". Basically, these are lists of 10 requirements and 10 deal breakers (each selected from eHarmony provided lists of choices).
We both had this requirement in our "must haves":
"My match must be willing to accept my child as their own."
That's a pretty heavy requirement to place on someone. It's not surprising that we would both have children. However, most of my eHarmony matches did not have children already. But, each one of those 120+ matches agreed, in principle, to accept my child as their own. I was not even introduced to any woman who would reject this responsibility. That's the way eHarmony works.
Most Helpful Girl
I am in no position to be a step parent by any means, so to date someone with a child with no plans for the future is pointless. Then again I am 21 now, whose to say I won't change my mind in a couple years. I had a friends with benefits who actually had 2 small children, I was okay with this because this was a factor why we would never be more than friends with benefits and it never went that way either.