Most Helpful Guy
I don't know any quality black man who's ever been intimidated by a woman of any color. The intimidation about which some women speak is merely a man's acknowledgment that he does not have much to bring to the table relative to what the lady has. Intimidation implies fear. He's not afraid of you because of what you are; he feels unworthy because of what he's failed to do over the course of his life to end up in a position where he feels he can't bring much to the table.
All the black men I know encourage a woman to be confident in their own skin. Therefore while straight hair may look good on Kim Kardashian, the black men I know encourage their women to have naturals; therefore, yes, in that sense we think that some features are ugly on you when they look good on white women: but the reverse is true as well (think dreadlocks).
There's no excuse for black men not stepping up in the family, and only deadbeat men (of any race) will act so despicably.
And I believe that black men have legitimate societal complaints, but that's a conversation for a different time; I agree with what you're saying about those complaints in the context of this question. Societal constraints don't keep you from being a good man.
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Most Helpful Girl
LOL whaaat? I guess the whole black men preferring light skinned or white women thing can make me tired of black men, but such men are in a minority and sometimes it can just be chalked up to preference. In my experience a man not stepping up is based on how they were raised rather than race. They are so many historical and cultural reasons why black women are strong and seen as protectors and a good strong man could appreciate that. But there are many great black men and these days life is all about taking care of yourself