Me and my girlfriend have a 3 year old boys. I love them both but i work 12 hours shifts to get some income. I finished school and got a pretty good job. It's been 4 months now and i see my son only 1 time a week. I sometimes call to talk to him and my girlfriend. Last night my girlfriend got a bit mad cause i never take her out and i'am turning "cheap" to save money. Which is true. I think we really need the money and i can spend time with my son later on in life. I want to make sure he is ok. Is this a good way to think or not? My girlfriend insists i work for 6 days and not 7. But i think that one last day income is worth it.
What is your honest opinion on this? How would you girls or parents feel?
Most Helpful Girl
At this stage, he's still developing and a lot of his learning is based on the role models in his life and the relationships he has with them. At three years old, that's generally limited to a small group of children perhaps, his parents and maybe grandparents. You are incredibly important to him right now - you always will be, but now is special. It's good that you want to be able to give him money and make him comfortable, but remember that he needs his father. I would feel extremely upset with my partner if he only saw our child once a week.0
Most Helpful Guy
I understand where you're coming from, but I understand your girlfriend too. No mother wants her kid to have a Dad only once a week. Time is passing by, your child is learning new things every day, developing and growing and you're missing out on it all. I get that you're out there, making money and working hard, but "spending time with your son later on in life" is not a good parenting strategy. Your kid needs a Dad now. If you're not there, what your child will remember one day is not that you were working hard but that you weren't there.0