I went out with this guy and he paid we had a great time. He asked me out again but I had to work and I really wanted to go I'm not quite sure if he knows that I really wanted to go but any ways he is taking way to long to ask me out again so I'm thinking about taking the intiative and asking him out myself. he's the type of guy who will want to pay should I let him or should I pay since I would be asking? I'm totally fine with me paying I'm just not sure how it should go. I need all the help I can get so if y'all could give me date ideas as well that would be perfect.
Most Helpful Guy
the guy should come prepared to pay... but you need to be prepared also... when it comes time for the check... and you are waiting... if he asks then he's got it... if you ask for the check... see if he takes it from you... but be prepared... and he might pay if he likes you... if he doesn't by that by no means signifies he inst attracted to you... basically be prepared.1
Most Helpful Girl
Foot the bill.
It's not whether he's a gentleman or not that he has to pay. I find it awkward that a guy should always foot a bill. It makes me feel lesser. A lot of girls also take it for granted that a man has to be the payer, but that idea comes from the fact that men would be the breadwinner. Because of that, girls also feel good when a guy pays. It's "manly".
True, it's mentally and financially lighter to get a free meal, but I would rather go dutch, or french, else, on alternating dates, foot the whole bill. Basically, I don't want to impose on him too much. Also, if I am earning, I can afford and would rather be independent.
If he insists, be more insistant. If he's too persistent, then let him take it.
Last time I went out for a lunch, the guy was a payer. He shot me down when I offered to pay half. But for desserts, we went to a different place, and I shot him down and payed the whole bill. He had this look on his face, "OH NO, I'm making her pay!" But I don't want him to think that he needs to be the payer all the time. That's unfair. Guys should feel light too at times. Also, he shouldn't feel ashamed that a girl was paying the bill. Wtf does that mean, you know?2