- It depends
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50% depends, 50% no. If the kids are younger than about 14, no. If she has more than 2 kids of any age, no. Basically it doesn't matter how great our relationship is, her kids are obviously always going to be more important to her than me. Now, I fully understand this, but this also means I will always come second best. It isn't easy being a single mom. Lots of work, time and energy needed to raise a family on your own. Not really interested in hanging out with someone who is exhausted by the end of the night from running kids around all day. Unless the kid's father died, the father will always, to some degree, be involved in their lives. This means some kind of interaction with their mom. This can lead to messy situations and I am not interested in being in the middle of drama. With younger kids especially, it becomes harder for just the two of us to spend together so the development of the relationship can get delayed or take longer. I don't know, the whole thing just seems like more work than it is worth.