What is the most vicious, discounting violence, I can become? I'm not even really in the nice guy camp, considering I'm emotionless and normal more than anything. But, I, still to close to the nice spectrum. Which is weird, because I never censor myself, I'm still vulgar, comedic, and sarcastic. But, anyway... how cruel and vicious can I become? Not just outwardly cruel and vicious, but, subtly, because, that's the way you hurt people, and, women like men that hurt them. I'm not changing myself, I'm just abusing my old personality with bitterness to warp it into another form.
Most Helpful Girl
Its really not about being vicious at all. Guys who get away with those things are mostly only the extremely attractive ones that makes a lot of girls overlook the bad things about them. "Nice guys finish last" is made up, and guys often use it when rejected because they think its their "niceness" that makes girls turned off, when its actually just the way that they approach and interact with the girl that they do wrong and that the bad guys do right, or they are just not attractive to her. And all self proclaimed "nice guys" aren't always nice either... 😅
Personal experience: arrogant, controlling and rude guys are a huge turn off for me. HUGE turn off. Can make a 10 go down to a 4 tbh 😒 has happened, too many times.3
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Most Helpful Guy
It's not "nice guys always finish last", but the shy guys. Here's the reason why: Most of the time they keep to their selves or a select group of individuals, but don't really talk to anyone or seem to have much confidence in themselves. The guys that are typically considered "bad guys" or "jerks" are the ones that are more confident in themselves. Confidence is the key to everything. I told someone else this in an earlier response, but who would you enjoy talking to more. The person sitting in the corner by themselves, or the person who is looking at you and smiling as they introduce themselves? Most of the people that I know would talk to the person who is showing that they are welcoming and friendly. That's the reason they get a lot of attention, because they show everyone a lot of attention too. You don't have to be cruel, vulgar, or anything like that. That is actually repulsive to women. Just be confident, sincere, charming, and funny. Make them feel comfortable around you and make them feel appreciated. Don't try to be a jerk to women because you think that's what they want, just try to talk to them, smile, introduce yourself, and take it from there.1