I get stared at, approached, messaged by guys on a regular basis - I would say I'm conventionally beautiful, so no negative physical factor here. The only weird thing I notice is they get really awkward when we're talking. Be it face to face talking or messaging.
One time they can be really sweet, doing things for me, being all gentleman-like... then turn really rude or passive-agressive one time they hear something they don't like (something small and trivial like a musician I like or a tv show)/I have an opinion they don't like. God forbid someone shatters their perfect picture of an object in form of a pretty girl.
Other example is my ex's brother (ex whom was my boyfriend at the time) who was INCREDIBLY rude to me from the start. Like downright saying some really hurtful things. Then when his girlfriend left the room, we were alone, he told me he thinks I was beautiful and intelligent, and that he would snatch me up in an instant if his brother didn't first. What the actual fuck?
You were calling me names 5 minutes ago!
Most of the time they're just rude to me from the start... it's really awkward and I don't want anything to do with it, but I can't avoid it.
It's like they forget Im a human being too. I have feelings too. Opinions as well. I want to figure out if there is something wrong with me, or the guys I run into. And what can I do to fix it. If this is confusing to you, dont sweat it, It's confusing to me too.
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I see two possibilities: one is that they're the sort of people who say harmful things in a joking way, not being aware that they hurt people. Some guys or girls lack that feeling of "I'm going too far".
The other possibility is something you'll also experience on GAG. Some people are really nice and will avoid conflict. If we don't agree we'll nicely tell you, not shoot :D
But some users cannot accept opinions that do not confirm theirs. They seem to be asking questions to open the gate for a fight about "who's right" :-(
Welcome to GAG, enjoy :D