Hopefully I don't ramble excessively in this post. I know others have asked this question before, but my situation is a tad unique; I am 24 but I look young for my age. I look approximately 17-22 and I don't grow much facial hair. In high school I was socially awkward overweight and had low confidence , in university I've lost of my weight and grew my hair out in dreads (they are neatly kept and clean), after studying abroad I revamped my wardrobe and in general became a much happier person. Even though I'm kind of a dork I've never had trouble making friends even female friends ( in fact currently, the majority of them are female) after all of these changes people do compliment my appearance, style and artistic talent, but I've never had a girlfriend and seldom get flirted with like my other guy friends do. The closest I've ever come was sophomore year where a girl I was talking to slept with me for a week (as in literal sleeping not intercourse Im not looking for that anyway) but it turned out she was just using me to get closer to my friend. I usually don't get too miffed about it but when I try to make the connection the girl just doesn't feel the same way. I've asked if they think I'm gay and everyone says no not at all. Lastly, when I do meet girls or other dudes who find out I'm single, they are surprised and assume that I'm afraid of commitment or some such so any advice? Ramble over.
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You are being WAY too passive with girls, u expect THEM to flirt with YOU initially? Men die virgins with this awfully low odds method.
What u need to do, is to make more aggressive moves on girls. Flirt with them by complimenting them, and playful touching.
I truly believe this is the missing piece to your puzzle. I seriously believe SOME of your female friends had crushes on you and were waiting on YOU, to make the move you never did.
Go out there and talk to these ladies in a non-platonic way. Risk rejection, the risk is worth it!3