There's a situation I've been in recently where I've been let down. I want to vent at this person.
I met a guy in a pub one time when I was having lunch with my friends. We got so well we ended up going other places for drinks. We kissed at the end of the day and exchanged numbers. He was supposed to be playing football and kept getting calls asking him to go, but he said he'd had such a good time with me he let it go (he only plays amateur).
He scheduled a date for us to meet at the weekend. On the morning he calls me very early to say that his mom has been taken into hospital and he's really sorry but he can't make the date.
He texts me throughout Sunday to apologise for messing me around (he does this about 3 times). He says he understands if I don't want to meet up with him, but he still wants to see me and hopes we can make another date, whenever I'm available.
We text a bit more throughout the week.
On the Friday I text him a fair bit (maybe a bit too much), but he actually ends up calling me at one point to speak over the phone, but I was out at a party and didn't get his missed call until the next day.
The next day he apologises for annoying me and asks if we're still on for the date on Sunday. I text him back and tell him the night was a bit of a blurr to me and it's no worries (I thought I'd actually annoyed him) and that we're all good for Sunday.
Anyway, I don't hear anything back from him.
I text him at 5pm on Sunday to ask him to confirm if we're still on (the date was at 8pm) and nothing. Nada. Zilch.
I haven't replied nor has he. But I'm so angry.
A part of me wants to not reply and not "show my hand" as it were. But as I don't want to see him again, a part of me wants to text him to tell him to stop being an asshole/play games with people to get it off my chest and it may help me to forget it.
It makes me realise that the first time he may not have been with his mom, he may be a flake/player.
To text/vent or not to, that is the question?
Theoretically, not to would be the best. "Give it up, let it go" etc. But I keep thinking about it and getting angrier and angrier because he's just got away with being a dick, and feel venting may actually be better?
Most Helpful Guy
I really don't think venting would do anything to help the situation, either for you or for him. You don't know if he's been intentionally avoiding you or not... sometimes life gets crazy. Venting to him wouldn't make you feel any better. Trust me. It would probably make things worse, because then he would get upset and want to vent at you, and both of you will end up more angry than you were before. Even if he doesn't get angry back at you, you aren't going to feel better because of it.
If you truly aren't interested in seeing him again, send him one more message saying so, and then just let it go. Getting angry at people is destructive and rarely does anything to help a situation. The emotions you feed are the ones that grow inside you. Peacefully remove yourself from the situation instead, and your anger will dissolve on its own.1
Most Helpful Girl
Don't text him. What do you hope to achieve by scolding him which I'm sure will be pretty heated once you get more into it? It's not like you want him anyway. All you're really achieve by telling him to stop playing games will be making you look a bit off your rocker. He's not really 'playing games' as you guys were never in a relationship. He bailed on plans, annoying for sure. However, it happens. The best thing to do in cases like that is to show it doesn't phase you.
(If you're pissed, find other ways to let all the anger out. Maybe hit the gym or go for a jog.)0