17 and pregnant.. Boyfriend is a 22 year old marine?

We have known each other for a year , almost two. I will be 18 in a month and I'm one month pregnant.

Should I marry him when I turn 18 so he can help with the baby? I also live in a small apartment by myself working 2 jobs.. I don't know if I'm making the right choice or not.


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  • You don't need to be married for him to help with the baby. You shouldn't get married if you don't love him, because it won't last and a divorce is just one more complication that you don't need. . . but if you love him, getting married would be nice,

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  • Oh so you want to trap him with marriage because you're afraid that he'll leave otherwise? Two wrongs don't make a right, marriage won't magically solve everything and I'm 95% sure you'll be getting a divorce in a few years if you do end up marrying each other, given the fragile circumstances.

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    • Um... You do not know us. I was hoping to get some opinions from others who have been in my situation. I'm not trapping him into anything, I just don't want my child to grow up without his/her father. Getting deployed, and not coming back.

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      not even what I'm saying... Goodbye.

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  • Big fucking mistake and wrecklessness.

    Marrying jsut because u got prego does not work most times.

    Single mothers divorce rate is 75 percent. ...
    98 percent of prisoners are raised by singe mom's.

    I m assuming it won't work out... he fucked a minor and you guys are in different phases in life. It doesn't come off a legit relarionship

    Good luck and be a goood mom... I feel sorry for the cild

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    • What the fuck she's fucken 17 years old okay she's having a fucken baby u can't tell her this kind of shit okay what if u were the father and she said I'm pregnant with ur child what would u do and plus the fathers a fucken marine have some respect he can die fighting he's gonna b a great father

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    • i got a sense of respect for you through your ability to accept it for what it is. people who tell you sugar coated half truths are harmful because they steal your reality preventing preparation. its the easiest way not to help someone and invest the least amount of energy.

      I've studied parenting/ family and everything in between for the last decade. marrying for the baby has proven a failure most times. people aren't happy.

      despite what and how your relationship with you boyfriend is, i strongly suggest finishing your education, having your parents involved in raising your child and grandparents are proven to be extremely beneficial to the childs growth/health/happiness.

      establishing a bond with the main caregiver from 2 to 6 is extremely important as it will set a foundation for all relationships the child will have in his/her lifetime. depriving the child during these stages significantly increases your childs chance of having personality/mental disorders etc.

    • its not hopeless but a lot of hard work and mental strength.

      wish you and the child the best.

  • A military having a child out of wedlock with an underage girl?

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  • Definitely not the right choice in my opinion, but if abortion or adoption is off the table... Do what is best for you. Don't marry just for the sake of it.

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  • you should probably let him know... also, that's pretty weird that a 22 year old would have sex with a 17 year old. besides statutory rape and a huge age gap... anyways, if he denies it, you can always go this route :D

    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Yw57CRiTxzw

    you whether or not he marries you, he'll have to pay child support if he is the father.

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    • 5 years is nothing compared to 11-14 years that many married couples have. I turn 18 in one month. Consent here is 16. Regardless, that part isn't what I was asking.

    • well, i follow the 1/2 age +7 rule. plus, it's still a pretty big age gap for that age range. 1 could be finished in college while the other (you) is borderline old enough to graduate high school. either way, you don't marry someone because y'all are having a kid. y'all marry each other if you actually love each other.

  • Don't marry him just because. He is the father and legally has a responsibility to help you with that child, married or not. Aw babies, how nice. Just think, you'll be a grandma at 37. Not many people can say that!

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  • If you're marrying for anything other than love then you shouldn't be getting married. There's nothing stopping him from being an active parent and helping to raise the child while being your boyfriend. Marriage is much more than a piece of paper, if this is the only reason you'd marry him it's almost certain to fail. Just focus on being parents. Don't marry a person you have no intention of spending all of your life with.

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  • No. You shouldn't be marrying him just because of the baby. So many people marry for the wrong reasons. Don't be one of those people. Marry for the right reasons. If you love him and he loves you then yes but if it's because of the baby then it isn't worth it. It will just hurt you and him in the future.

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  • Don't marry him just so he can help with the baby. He should already be helping with the baby even if you aren't married. You probably should've thought about all of this before you go pregnant. If I was living by myself working two jobs I would be exxxttrraaa careful not to get pregnant because 1.) That's tiring. and 2.) can't afford it. but don't marry him just because of the baby. That's not cool and that marriage is destined to fail.

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  • Well what I think you need to do is sit down and talk with him and tell him what is going on and how you feel. Work things out and decide how you guys are going to proceed. Maybe wait to make a big commitment like marriage if the topic becomes a big deal.

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  • Honestly, no you shouldn't.

    This is what I thought about lol

    www.kappit.com/img/pics/201507_2119_abifd_sm.jpg

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