So me and my boyfriend live together and I am at collge so I get my rent covered for me due to being a student. But my boyfriend has an ok job and makes 1700 a month and he lives with me and apart from paying his own bills everything is split equal which am fine doing but at the same time that fact that I get a little over 100 a week to spend on bills , gas and electricity and food , clothes going out etc. I try to tell him that since he makes a bit of money that he should contribute some money to me for letting him live here rent free but he disagrees because I am his girlfriend so he feels he should live rent free. I just feel a bit resentful that I am left struggling to even pay my phone bill and he is sitting with after bills 1500 that he spends on video games and beer. I know he has a job and works hard but I still feel he should pay something towards having a roof over his head. Maybe am just a selfish person? Am I been unfair?
Most Helpful Guy
Is he a student too?
He should definitely be paying rent, nobody lives for free, that's a ridiculous claim. You are not getting 'free' rent. Your rent is being covered because you are a student, meaning it is coming out of your tuition payments and is being reflected in the small amount you get as a living allowance. It is not 'free', the cost is just obfuscated by other things. If he is a student, then he should be getting some kind of living expenses as well, which should be going to you as he is not in his own place. If he is NOT a student, then he damn well should be paying something, that's insane. He is just taking advantage of you. You are his girlfriend, so you should subsidize his life and go without so he can have beer? That is a huge red flag, he is showing the signs of a very selfish person that lacks empathy to see your point of view, and lacks the common sense to understand that you are not living for free, but your rent is coming out of other hidden costs.
YOU are not the selfish person, he is. You are not being unfair, he is taking advantage of you.1
Most Helpful Girl
Well, you aren't paying either. And you also don't have a job. But I know what it's like to be in college and having to budget and buy food, water, and electricity.
He should contribute a fair portion to you because you let him live there. I would tell him to pay you.
At the very least he should pay for half of electricity. Since most places average 70-90 dollars for electricity, I don't see how this would be a problem to him or you.
Also, if you buy his food and household items (toilet paper, soap, etc) then he should pay for half of that as well.
Here are base things-I'm going to round things in your favor, 50 for the splitting of electricity. 15 for water. And 50 for a big thank you
So, about 115 seems fair, plus food and household items. You'll get double the money to budget, and if that doesn't make you happy, I don't know what will :)
And him, hell, he could be paying ALL of rent. So, he better not complain.
And I don't understand why he isn't giving you at least around 100 anyway. He's probably young, has no rent, and apparently no responsibilities, so why would he hoard everything and not give you at least electricity and thank you money? He seems kinda selfish, just saying.0