Most Helpful Guy
Don't hint. That doesn't really work on a lot of guys. They are dense. Some of them (like me) would be dense enough to have my own event horizon - dense enough to alter time and bent light. In fact, I sometimes pretend to be dense and stupid enough and every hint (or insults) would just fail so I can have more time to deal (or not deal) with it.
Look at him and just ask him straight. If he asks for time then tell him to be a man and be decisive but then back out and give him some time (no more than 1 week).
Don't play the jealous card, that will do more harm than good unless you really had him on the hook. Men do get possessive but you don't want to force him to show it. It lowers his view of you.1
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Most Helpful Girl
Issuing ultimatums isn't the oath to a healthy relationship and is a turn off for most people. Just tell him how you are feeling and at this point you don't want to see other people and asks what he thinks. If he's into you he will most likely agree or if he isn't really feeling it he'll give you a noncommittal type of answer. At which point it may be time for you to take a step back, evaluate the relationship and if it is working for you anymore, if you are getting out of it what you need. If not its time to move on to someone else who is looking for the same thing you are and able to give it to you.
I've dated men that simply just were not capable of a loving relationship with anyone even though they wanted it and tried to fulfill that. One of them dragged an ex along for 3 years never fully emotionally commuting to the relationship or falling in love. Trust me not a good scenario women wind up giving it their everything to get nothing back in return leaving them bitter when they finally end it.2