Basically there's this guy who I've been talking to online for months who professed his love for me even though we've never met. And I freaked out a little thinking that there's no way, because we haven't even met. Or video chatted. Or voice chatted. And my family was telling me he must be crazy and desperate wanting to be with someone he's only known for a little while.
Well, over the past couple of weeks I've made more online friends and they've done the same thing but even worse. One guy, I don't even know what his first name is and we haven't even seen pics of each other but he says he wants to date me. And another, I do know his name and we know where each other live and he's saying he wants to have a relationship and he thinks he loves me.
Is this just how people are nowadays? Or do I only attract crazy people? It makes me wonder if the first guy isn't desperate after all but I don't know? Why is it that after talking to someone a few days they say that they want to be together? It's all of these guys doing it too. That's what's so weird to me.
Am I just too old to be in the loop and realize that this is just how it is now? Or do I somehow only end up talking to the people who aren't a good representation of guys? It used to be it took time hanging out in person for this to happen.
- They're all being shady
- It's normal, that's how things work now
Most Helpful Guy
They're probably just all very desperate, internet has changed the dating scene drastically. It's made it very hard for people to learn how to get out of their comfort zone and approach people in real life. So when someone pays attention to someone that doesn't know how to get out of that comfort zone, they feel like they have an immediate connection. Even if that connection is only online.1
Most Helpful Girl
It sounds a bit shady to me. I have tried online dating, within my city and from all over. They can say all they want (I've gotten the I love yous and marriage proposals before we even met). I believe more so in action now. It takes effort from both to make it work, and from my experience I was doing most of the effort. I made the mistake of giving money to one, he said for his son that I have interacted with via Skype. Just... never again. Be cautious, be safe.1
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