Is love even worth it?

Anonymous

I'm 18.
Never dated.
Never had a boyfriend.
Never kissed anyone.
All the guy I have had a crush on rejected me and recently I thought I'd have a chance with this other guy. But he showed no intrest after a while so I'm thinking of just giving up on this dating scene to be honest. It just doesn't seem worth all of this. Each rejection causes depression and my self esteem to drop (it's already pretty low)

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Most Helpful Guy

Jaron29
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I don't think you can quit looking for love even if you feel it isn't worth the emotional pain.

I tried to defy nature by looking for comfort and euphoria within myself but as a human being, my brain is hardwired to instinctively desire love. The same might apply to you as well.

But to ask me if love is worth it, my logical reasoning wants to say No but my heart says Yes.

So we're in the same boat mate, I'm as confused as you are.
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- Asker
  
  I don't see the effort being worth it if all I ever get is rejected. I don't care if i'm only 18 not being wanted hurts at any age
  
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- Jaron29
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  Well said with impeccable accuracy. Being unwanted at any age hurts. But have hope as that's the best you'll get from destiny. You never know, admist all these painful rejections, one day your better half may come by. Its more healthy to have hope than to adopt a self-destructive mentality and turn bitter.
  
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- Jaron29
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  Anyway, can I ask you a question?
  
  Do you think people who are desperate are worth dating?
  
  (just want your honest opinion, I will not condemn your view)
  
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- Asker
  
  I won't turn bitter I just at this point don't care. I've gone through a lot in life and this effort on wanting someone to date me has wised me up rather than made me bitter. I believe in fate and I'm just destined not to have anyone and I've accepted that
  
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- Jaron29
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  But how are you so certain you won't have anyone?
  
  Unless you've already decided firmly not to ever get involved in a romantic r/s for the rest of your life. Or that you can see into the future.
  
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- Asker
  
  I could tell after maybe the tenth rejection that this isn't for me
  
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- Jaron29
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  The twenth one could be a success, you never know. (:
  Keep your head up and have hope. And until then, stay happy.
  
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- Asker
  
  I'd rather be happy alone to be fair
  
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Most Helpful Girl

Complicated-Soul
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Don't chase after guys. You know what they say... you find love when you least expect it.
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What Guys Said 2

zagor
Guru mho 9%

If you're 18 you have nothing to worry about. On the other hand, I am ready to quit looking at dating sites, give up singles clubs, and be happy with my life as it is. And maybe buy one of those Japanese love dolls.
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Anonymous

And I thought only guys felt this way
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What Girls Said 1

shadowlegend
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Complain when you're 40. Until then, allow yourself to have experiences when they come. Don't judge yourself too harshly, and adjust your expectations.
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