I am in a fairly new relationship. We have been dating for almost four months. Not boyfriend/girlfriend status yet, but the feelings are there.
I'm afraid that because we are taking things slow that he won't be thinking about getting me anything this year, whereas I am all up for buying him something, and I have already been planning it.
Our relationship has slowed WAY WAY down after we had the "where do we stand" talk a little over 2 months ago (he initiated). He wanted to slow things down. And since then, he's put up this barrier and has been devoid of cutesy/relationship talks (i. e I'm thinking of you; I can't wait to see you, blah blah blah). Everything has basically halted, but we do plan gettogethers, and pretty much see each other once a week). And he does respond in person about cutesy things. For instance, if I say I missed him, he'll say he missed me too.
I'll be upset if he doesn't get me anything because I will feel like I mean nothing to him. It will hurt me. It's the thought that counts.
So I am wondering if you generally get your significant other/date something for Christmas when you've been dating them for 2 to 4 months, even if you're taking things slow.
Most Helpful Guy
Its okay as long as you explain you thought it was the perfect gift for him or something and that you like it a lot. And that it made you think of him or what ever. And its not bad if he doesn't exactly come up with a gift on Christmas. Sure he might feel guilty but you can bet he may try to out do your gift on the next special day that has significance to you. Gifts are treasures and as long as he knows that it came from the bottom of your heart. Im sure he won't be too offended.
In my culture its a huge deal to give gifts. Such as you always give the gift with two hands and bow. and you never give four gifts as its a bad luck number. I'm Korean. And most times small gifts are given to the host when you go over to their house if they are older than the giver.
Be happy its going slow as to avoid mistakes y'all sound suuuuper cute <3 Be kind and respectful. and if you have to do explain if he asks why your giving the gift. If he is confused as to why your giving it.
Hope this is helpful1
Most Helpful Girl
I've always given the guy at least something. Since I'm still getting to know him maybe, I'll try to get him something thoughtful, but nothing too extravagant. I don't really like receiving gifts, but I would be a bit sad if he didn't at least wish me a Merry Christmas and gave me a hug sometime that week (like when I gave him his gift). Usually, the guys have given me a small gift as well.1