Most Helpful Girl
Funny how the other girl comments take this to another level and don't answer the question. But anyway if she's playing games. She's childish.
I don't believe in the chase game. Should people persue? Yes. Because it shows interest. But chase? No.
The only time I think you should chase someone. Is when you've already been woth them and don't want to loose what you have.
Now some girls expect to get persude. Why? Because for years guys are expected to ask the girl out and woo her, charm her, pay for the dates and be all romantic.
Even now I know younger girls who are raised to think the guy has to ask you out
And for some or most girls. They do expect or hope that the guy makes the first move.
If you want to ask a girl out, or make the first move go for it it's not chasing it's showing interest
But don't chase her, you have no reason to base you times on her if she can't do the same for you. It's Childish, to me chasing is like desperate and no guy should chase a girl. Unless she's the one. Guys don't run yourself wild over girls who can't make the time.
Spend it on a girl hers willing to meat you half way
Most Helpful Guy
As a guy, I think putting in some effort and showing interest (without being desperate) is good. I think also that people should have lives and not hover by the phone, desperate for a call. Some of those "rules" make SOME sense. But most of it is a waste of time.
Either no one is interested in me, or they are incredibly adept at playing not hard to get, but impossible to get. Either way, it's disappointing, but I do my best to move on when I see too much of that.
I think getting dates should be fun. I think meeting women (even meeting people in general) should be fun. I think a person should feel good after gong to a party. But if I'm in the game, I'm terrible at it, hate it, and am not interested in playing because the rules are set for me to lose. Different ways? Still gonna lose. I wouldn't play a board game like that, and yet people are expected to "play" by arbitrary rules and enjoy it.
It's Calvinball, but where you're guaranteed to lose.