Can someone explain/defend why there should be a cat and mouse game of a girl acting busy and uninterested while the guy consistently proves through chasing the girl that he wants to be with her? I feel like only average girls do this which ironically are the ones not worth this whole chasing game...
Most Helpful Girl
Maybe she just honestly isn't interested? If you don't enjoy the chase, then tell her that you won't play games. If she tries those games, say goodbye. She will either agree and walk away, or she'll miss you and come back.1
Most Helpful Guy
As a guy, I think putting in some effort and showing interest (without being desperate) is good. I think also that people should have lives and not hover by the phone, desperate for a call. Some of those "rules" make SOME sense. But most of it is a waste of time.
Either no one is interested in me, or they are incredibly adept at playing not hard to get, but impossible to get. Either way, it's disappointing, but I do my best to move on when I see too much of that.
I think getting dates should be fun. I think meeting women (even meeting people in general) should be fun. I think a person should feel good after gong to a party. But if I'm in the game, I'm terrible at it, hate it, and am not interested in playing because the rules are set for me to lose. Different ways? Still gonna lose. I wouldn't play a board game like that, and yet people are expected to "play" by arbitrary rules and enjoy it.
It's Calvinball, but where you're guaranteed to lose.0