I'm 25 years old and I like a 40 year old man. I told my mom about my crush today, and it really seemed to upset her. She got really quiet and then asked me why I couldn't find someone closer to my age to like.
Should I listen to my mom? I think this man likes me too by the way.
Most Helpful Guy
The way I see it is if he makes you happier and you make him happier and it's genuine then go for it, but remember when you are 45, he'll be 60 and when you are 60, he'll be 75 and if he dies aged 75, then you can end up being a widow on your own for the remainder of your life and if that could be another 21 years or longer (I'm going by life expectancy here).
Your Mom probably has the same thoughts that I do. Big age differences can work though and I have seen far older men with far younger women and they seem happy, so I am sure your Mom will come around to the idea.0
Most Helpful Girl
Whenever there is a situation where there is a large age gap, I think a lot of people, your mom included, would wonder if you are being taken advantage of, what common interests could you possibly have, life expectancy... any number of things. Even if you were 50 years old, a mom is a mom, and they will always worry about you no matter what you do or who you are with. You are however, also a grown woman who can make her own decisions. If you find this guy to be decent and he is a good guy, then date him and be happy and show your family that you are happy and I think eventually they would come around to liking the guy too. Just you know, be careful.0