I want a guy to know me for me not feel sorry for me
And i want to sleep in separate beds (im just kidding about this part)
Most Helpful Guy
Yes it important cause i known 4 raped victims. They all have 1 thing in common. They are controlling. what should do and what shouldn't do. What i can say and what i can't say. And things i do remind them of that time so they act sour.
I get we all say if guy can't accept this or if he dont love me for who i am then... Well the truth is guys is tired of investing there lives, time, and energy, into females we dont know. Character is defied by the harsh moments in lives. And guy is getting to see the part of you that you feel he need to only know then what happen if he start saying stuff the rapist say, or his sexual fantasy is rape.
Though i am not trying to sound super serious in all but us guys needs know what getting ourselves into before we go with our woman. No disrespect intended.
Most Helpful Girl
It definitely isn't wrong to not tell him, and it's absolutely your choice. However, I would be concerned if you still have sensitivities (for lack of a better word) to certain things. Someone here once mentioned that her boyfriend came on to her when she was sleeping and she was upset about it, understandably so, but her boyfriend didn't get it just because he wasn't aware of her past. That's just one example, but that would be my concern.