I'd say on the surface level its fear of being boring but on a deeper level it probably would be the fact that i used to be shy i feel like i can never be fully charismatic enough..
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I don't know I'm often scared of being perceived as too clingy or annoying so I try to keep contact to people I don't know that well to a minimum (me basically waiting for them to contact me first) which gave me this reputation of being kinda cold/reserved..
I'm still way more insecure about my looks though and yes, it does get in the way if you're trying to date. Insecurities are never good.
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Hmm I'm not a very traditional guy. I don't really have a protective instinct and I'm not a fighter. I don't fit definitions of traditional masculinity. I'm not insecure in myself or anything but I know that this is an issue with quite a few women I've gotten close to eventually.
I'm me and I'm not out to impress anyone though lol