Most Helpful Girl
My question to you is: are these people paying your bills? Your rent/mortgage? Who cares what other people think. If they think you're a loser than you need new friends or s better social group. Don't get a girlfriend just to have one. You'll get her hopes up and she will be wasting her time when you're only using her as a billboard.
Now, once you're ready for a girlfriend you should try Match or Tinder. Meet up for coffee (no drinks unless you're looking for a hookup) and get to know her. Having a relationship is good for some people and for others not so much. Once again, forget what society says. It's 2015.3
Most Helpful Guy
Don't worry about looking like a "loser" Society has brainwashed and conditioned in men's heads that if they can't get a woman, its always their own fault, and they're "losers". That's some BS. Standards get higher everyday because guys even ones who can get a woman with little to no problems, act desperate thirsty and over compensate for female attention, so that makes it harder for guys who don't have the looks and/or money.2