Long story short, this girl and I have been talking and trying to get a date setup and it hasn't worked out because of timing on both our parts.
At the end she ended up messaging me (messaged me the night of the proposed date) way too late on a date I proposed but kept messaging me and offered me an alternate date that worked for her... a week and a half in advance. I figured okay, and told her I won't know for a few days because my exams and work but told her a definite timeline of when I would respond. She accepted and said she'll wait to hear from me and she's super excited about this.
So the day comes and I tell her what my schedule is like and we can definitely do it. She immediately comes back that she can't now because she's been given another shift at work she can't get out of. At this point I just told her alright well I'm doing my plan still and carrying on. She kept texting me abou the date that night and the next day... messaging me 4 or 5 times in total. By the end of it I just ignored the last few becaue it felt like a blow off since she didn't offer a new time.
Was this a blow off? I mean I don't get why she kept texting me about it, if she already thought she couldn't go.
Most Helpful Girl
Hmm, I think from what you have said, it genuinely is just bad timing. Perhaps she really has been given another shift and work and feels bad that she can't meet you, yet again.
From what you've said, she does sound excited to meet you. I do just think you both have had a bit of a busy schedule. Rather than ignore her, why don't you really politely just be upfront about it with her? Or you could just try to arrange another date for a day you'll definitely both be free. I guess if she flakes this time, then you'll know that she is actually blowing you off.
I honestly don't think she is though :)0
Most Helpful Guy
It's hard to tell from this information if she's actually interested or she's just stringing you along saying "Yes" but not committing until you give up. From personal experience and the fact that she kept texting, I am under the impression that she really is busy and does intend to date you.
I've had a similar experience a couple of months ago. We must have tried 5 times to find an appropriate day until we finally did. As long as you're both contributing to trying to find a day that works, which seems to be the case, you shouldn't be too discouraged. HOWEVER, there comes a point where your schedules conflict too much to make a relationship a viable option for the two of you. You have to decide if this is the case or if she's worth the trouble.
To answer your question, it doesn't seem like a blow off to me but I am troubled that she didn't suggest an alternate day. Send her a message asking how her schedule is looking for ____ and try to set something up. If she blows you off again (especially, without giving you an alternate day), I would suggest moving on.0