At the end she ended up messaging me (messaged me the night of the proposed date) way too late on a date I proposed but kept messaging me and offered me an alternate date that worked for her... a week and a half in advance. I figured okay, and told her I won't know for a few days because my exams and work but told her a definite timeline of when I would respond. She accepted and said she'll wait to hear from me and she's super excited about this.
So the day comes and I tell her what my schedule is like and we can definitely do it. She immediately comes back that she can't now because she's been given another shift at work she can't get out of. At this point I just told her alright well I'm doing my plan still and carrying on. She kept texting me abou the date that night and the next day... messaging me 4 or 5 times in total. By the end of it I just ignored the last few becaue it felt like a blow off since she didn't offer a new time.
Was this a blow off? I mean I don't get why she kept texting me about it, if she already thought she couldn't go.
Most Helpful Girl
I wouldn't go right to assuming that she's blowing you off if she's still reaching out to you but I might leave it up to her to schedule it. If a girl really wants to see you she will. I know it's not good but there have been times where I might string a guy along without any intent on actually hanging out with him just to give him some hope bc I feel bad about not being interested. Again that's definitely not the right thing to do but letting someone down who might be excited about you is never easy. But I can say with certainty that if I wanted to see a guy and he was willing to make the time for me I'd make sure I was available even for coffee at the very least just so we can get together. Hope that helps😊
Most Helpful Guy
To assume, as some of the posts do claiming "if she's into you, and blows you off, then think about how she'll treat you in the relationship" is bogus.
Sure, she may be into you, but you both ain't dating; she may totally get to know you or you get to know her and determine theirs no chemistry, or you aren't into each other like you both thought.
It seems like by the time you got back to her, the option to work came up as well and rather then waiting for your response she took the extra work shift.
Relax, don't freak, nor be rude to her about it.