Why do we long for the ones who are unobtainable? Who usually only want one thing?
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I'm not sure. But sometimes one longs for something lofty, because we feel it's a vindication of ourselves (like if they display interest it means we are worthwhile). So then by logical extension this would arise out of self misery, which by its extension we should focus or work on, rather than trying to obtain the thing (which can only lead to more misery, because it's de-powering).1