Here's the thing, to me touching and cuddling and such are everything. I can barely keep my hands off my boyfriend but he despises PDA. (im not talking making out dry humping pda, im talking hand holding) To me it always looks like a sign that he's ashamed of me or something, he says he's not, but it still doesn't sit right with me. I don't feel loved unless he shows physical affection, and when he even refuses to hold my hand in public and calls me clingy for putting my head on his shoulder, I can't help but feel like a burden. He says nobody needs to know if we're dating or not, its not their business, but I want everyone to know because it feels good to not be constricted around him in public or not. What do I do? This is really upsetting me and its been a topic of numerous conversations.
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Ignore people telling you to break up. Christ, do people not attempt to work on their relationships at all anymore?
Understand this: you have different communication styles and different ways of expressing love. PDA doesn't express love to him... and if you get dramatic about it, he will think you're insecure.
So, find out his love style, and try to fulfill that. In turn, he should do the same... let him know you just like it and it makes you feel good. Don't be dramatic and say something stupid like "it makes me feel like you don't love me."0