I been on and off, online dating for about 5 years now. With it landing me one single date truth this entire time, but then again I have tendency of just stopping and no longer visiting this sites for periods of 3-4 months, just enjoying the weather, life and working. However I have been always amazed that if I make a secondary "fake" profile and put the most stupidest things in About Me section that profile gets crazy amount of visitors.
I'm not a bad looking guy, with some feedback from GAG community my average looks fall into 7.5/10 range and there is nothing wrong with my attitude, sure I may be a cold person on the outside but that's because deep inside I'm pretty emotional person, I just never let my emotions get best of me. I have a very uptight moral compass and see woman as human being not sexual objects, I'm not a nice guy who can have people walk on him, I'm just a decent guy with a backbone and his own opinion on life, and things.
Here is my OKC profile: https://i.imgur.com/SkOI5TU.png
So I ask the GAG community to lend me their hand and explain why I'm having such poor luck finding girls OKC? I should also note, most read my messages but never respond nor do I see them in visitor list so simply my messages are ignored. Being a web developer I have came to a conclusion great amount of online dating users are automated profiles, in place to boost numbers for the site. Since there is really no explanation or reasoning why no one can respond with basic "not interested".
However this theory crumbled given my fake profile gets plenty of girls to massage it, so I know girls are capable of going out of there way and initiating the conversation. I don't know maybe because I'm just so much of a logical and moral monster that people don't find me interesting or hate me on some unconscious level...
Big thanks in advance. And hope to get some valuable feedback.
Most Helpful Girl
I think I would add some specific examples in your profile to give someone something to talk to you about. It's not a bad profile, but it could use some spice.
You note that you like to travel. Maybe list some places you like to go to, list some of your favourite local shops, list any bands or music acts you have seen live.
Maybe list some goals that you have achieved. Did you go to school? Talk about what you plan on doing in the future (ie. buying a home, going on a cross country road trip, opening up your own business).
I can certainly understand your frustration. I've been on and of datings sites for years. But I've always found someone. Sometimes it just takes time.
It could also be how you are approaching dating offline as well. What are your messages like to people you meet online? What do you typically do for dates?
Being 18-24 could also have something to do with it too. That age group is so plentiful online, you could just be getting overlooked because there are too many profiles to sift through. The best thing you can do is keep updating your profile. Adding new pictures and stuff and trying to enjoy your life in the meantime.2
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Most Helpful Guy
online dating is generally pretty tough for a lot of guys , so not sure exactly what you did wrong or right. I never had much luck with it myself so I decided to focus on meeting girls in real life. I think some people have the perception online be easier but often its harder unless your good with online communication and such0